Tuesday, February 5, 2013
Sometimes I'm thrilled with what he learns. Once, the counselor was having him name all the colors--red, blue, yellow, green. She asked which color was bad and which color was good. Colors aren't bad or good, they're just colors. Likewise, she told Timothy that feelings aren't bad or good. You can be angry or you can be happy, but FEELINGS aren't bad. How we react can be bad, but the feelings are okay. That made me happy and Timothy referenced that several times the next week.
Other weeks Timothy just plays with a paperclip the entire session and talks about Star Wars or volcanoes. In those sessions, I really contemplate if this is helping at all and I really regret the money I spent and the time I wasted.
The truth is that my child has anxiety problems. If he can't do something, he runs away. Things that should be simple make him have a major meltdown and it gets in the way of activities that should be fun for him! And I don't know how to deal with it. I guess I'm a failure as a mother because I don't know how to fix it. I just want life to be better for him!
His main problems:
1) He can't handle anything difficult. If he's trying to, say, build something with legos and he messes up even a little bit, he runs out of the room screaming and crying. He can't play video games because he can't handle it if he "loses" or doesn't get it the first try.
2) He's over-anxious. He picks up on tiny little things and just frets and frets about them. What if a bad person comes to our house? What if a meteor hits our backyard?
3) He's way, hugely hypersensitive to other people's appearances and emotions. All day, everyday, it's, "Mom, why did you do your eyebrow like that?" or "Mom, why did you go like *sigh*? Are you angry?" or "Dad, you just made a sad face. What's wrong? Are you sad? Do I make you sad?" Honestly, this is making me crazy. I'll just be sitting there normally, enjoying a soda and reading a book and Timothy will say, "Mom, you just made an angry look. Are you mad at me? Are you mad at Samuel?"
My insurance is changing and counseling will get more expensive next month. I'm trying to figure out what to do. Is it worth the price? I realize I won't see immediate results. If I don't do counseling, what do I do? I can't just let my child have problems and sit by and do nothing. Has anyone heard of Emotional Freedom Technique? I may look into it as it was recommended by a reader. What else can I try?
at 8:49 PM